Deciding to divorce is a tough decision that can easily leave you depressed, broke, and dealing with all kinds of emotions. How do you do it?

Open up to Your Partner

The first step in a divorce is to tell your partner what you're thinking and why you want a divorce. Some reasons for divorce are infidelity, drug abuse, abandonment, and cruelty. It could be that you don't feel the same way for your partner as you did when you wed. 

If you're dealing with an abusive spouse, think about your safety and that of your kids. This also applies to impulsive partners who have rage issues. Invite a third party such as your family lawyer or therapist as you break the news to your spouse. 

Alternatively, you can break the news via phone. Allow your spouse some time to process the news and be willing to have an amicable separation. You can offer to stay with a family or friend as you finalize the process. 

Get Organized 

Divorce proceedings are financially and emotionally draining for all parties involved. Therefore, start preparing early and get a family lawyer to help guide you through the process. Talk to your partner about finances and how you'll handle them after the divorce. 

Also, prepare for the divorce discovery process. Hopefully, you have a civil partner who will cooperate during the discovery process. This helps smoothen and hasten the process. It's a labor-intensive process, and you'll need all the help you can get, especially from your partner. 

You'll need a family attorney for the discovery process. It will help unearth any secrets that you and your partner are hiding. If it's a property or asset that any of you own, it's all put on the table. If this process isn't handled carefully, it could affect your divorce case; thus, you'll need to hire an experienced family lawyer to assist. 

Focus On the Important Things

It's not uncommon to find a partner who will try to make this process as hard as possible for the other party. You'll find a partner who thinks it's a competition, and their primary goal is to win. Unfortunately, there are no winners in a divorce; thus, focus on getting what's right for you and your kids. 

The more you argue and turn this into a competition, the longer it will drag on. You'll both lose over an avoidable problem by choosing a more amicable route.